Resources for Infidelity Counselling: Curated Supportive Tools
Curated Book Listmania Making Sense of and Recovering from Infidelity
How Reading Helps After Infidelity
Discovering an affair or experiencing infidelity can leave you feeling lost, overwhelmed, and questioning everything. Whether it’s the betrayal of trust, the emotional devastation of an extramarital affair (EMA), or the confusion surrounding the “other person,” making sense of it all can feel impossible. Reading offers a powerful way to begin the healing journey. It allows you to explore expert advice, relatable stories, and research-based strategies to rebuild trust and emotional security.
Books can help you understand the complex emotions tied to infidelity, navigate the painful aftermath of cheating, and provide tools to move forward—whether that’s individually or as a couple. Through these resources, you can start to make sense of the betrayal, uncover the underlying dynamics of the affair, and begin the process of healing.
Can Counselling and Books Together Help?
Yes, absolutely. Counselling creates a safe, non-judgmental space to process emotions, understand the roots of the infidelity, and rebuild trust. When paired with insightful books, it can deepen your understanding and offer additional tools to navigate the challenges. Whether you’re trying to save your relationship, heal from the loss, or make decisions about your future, these resources can provide clarity, guidance, and hope.
If you’re asking yourself, “Can I heal after an affair?” the answer is yes—with time, support, and the right tools. This carefully curated list of books, movies, and videos offers a starting point for those seeking to rebuild trust and rediscover stability in the wake of infidelity.
Here is a curated list of recommended books on infidelity counselling, including titles, authors, synopses, and links to their Goodreads pages for further information:
| No. | Title | Author | Synopsis | Goodreads Link |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity | Shirley P. Glass | Explores how emotional and physical affairs begin, their impact on relationships, and offers practical tools for rebuilding trust and intimacy. | Goodreads |
| 2 | What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal | John Gottman | Examines the science of trust and betrayal in relationships, providing strategies to maintain emotional security and strengthen bonds. | Goodreads |
| 3 | The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity | Esther Perel | Challenges conventional views on infidelity, offering a nuanced perspective on betrayal, desire, and pathways to healing. | Goodreads |
| 4 | Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love | Sue Johnson | Introduces Emotionally Focused Therapy, guiding couples through conversations to re-establish safe emotional connections and strengthen attachment bonds. | Goodreads |
| 5 | After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful | Janis Abrahms Spring | Provides guidance for individuals and couples to process pain, rebuild trust, and understand the underlying causes of infidelity. | Goodreads |
| 6 | Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair | Michele Weiner-Davis | Focuses on actionable steps to repair relationships and rekindle love after an affair, drawing on the author’s extensive experience in marriage counselling. | Goodreads |
| 7 | Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship | Stan Tatkin | Integrates neuroscience and attachment theory to help couples understand each other’s brain patterns, aiming to defuse conflicts and build a secure, loving relationship. | Goodreads |
These resources offer valuable insights and guidance for individuals and couples navigating the challenges of infidelity recovery.
A Curated List of Movies on Infidelity and Adultery and the Effects on the other Partner.
1.Bridges of Madison County (1995): This film tells the story of a brief yet profound affair between a lonely housewife and a traveling photographer. Set against the backdrop of 1960s rural America, the movie explores themes of love, longing, and the choices we make. It highlights the intense connection and the deep emotional impact that a short-lived affair can have on one’s life.
2. Unfaithful (2002): A gripping portrayal of how even a seemingly happy marriage can be upended by an unexpected affair. The film delves into the allure of mystery, charm, and risk, drawing one partner into a passionate and obsessive relationship. It also examines the ensuing torment and rage when the other spouse discovers the infidelity, revealing the devastating impact of betrayal.
3. Closer (2004): This intense drama revolves around the intertwined lives of four individuals caught in a web of deceit and infidelity. The film portrays the complexities of modern relationships, highlighting themes of love, lust, and betrayal. Through raw and honest dialogues, it reveals how adultery can shatter trust and alter the course of lives.
4. Eyes Wide Shut (1999): A provocative exploration of desire and fidelity, this film follows a married couple as they navigate the boundaries of their relationship. The husband’s journey through a night of sexual and moral discovery raises questions about trust, jealousy, and the nature of marital commitment. The movie delves deep into the psychological aspects of adultery and its implications on a marriage.
5. Revolutionary Road (2008): A poignant and tragic exploration of a disintegrating marriage in the 1950s. The film stars Kate Winslet and Leonardo DiCaprio as a couple whose dreams and aspirations are crushed by the monotony of suburban life, leading to infidelity and heartbreak.
6. Fatal Attraction (1987): A suspenseful thriller that explores the consequences of a one-night stand. The film depicts the dangerous obsession that follows an affair, leading to a terrifying ordeal for the unfaithful husband and his family. It serves as a cautionary tale about the far-reaching impact of infidelity.
7. Little Children (2006): This film portrays the lives of two suburban parents who engage in an affair to escape the dissatisfaction of their respective marriages. It delves into the complexities of their emotional struggles and the impact of their actions on their families. The movie highlights the repercussions of seeking solace outside marriage and the inevitable consequences.
8. Match Point (2005): A psychological thriller that explores the themes of lust, ambition, and moral ambiguity. The film follows a former tennis pro who starts an affair with his brother-in-law’s fiancée. It showcases the lengths to which one might go to preserve a comfortable lifestyle, even at the expense of morality and loyalty.
These films provide a nuanced look at the many facets of adultery, from the initial attraction and secrecy to the eventual consequences and emotional fallout.
Curated YouTube Listmania Making Sense of and Recovering from Infidelity
Can You Affair-Proof Your Relationship?
Infidelity is one of the greatest challenges a relationship can face, but is it possible to safeguard your partnership against it? According to experts like Dr. Sue Johnson and Drs. John and Julie Gottman, fostering a secure emotional bond, maintaining open communication, and addressing unmet needs are essential steps toward building a resilient, trusting relationship. Below is a curated list of expert-backed videos that explore why infidelity happens, how to recover, and strategies to strengthen your connection.
Infidelity Recovery: Curated Videos for Couples
Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved
- Speaker: Esther Perel
- For Couples: A profound exploration of the emotional complexities of infidelity, why it happens, and how relationships can recover.
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This Is How You Stop Your Partner from Cheating
- Speaker: Esther Perel on SVT/NRK/Skavlan
- For Couples: Esther Perel shares insights on fostering connection and intimacy to safeguard relationships and prevent infidelity.
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Drs. John and Julie Gottman: Evidence-Based Relationship Strategies
Trust Revival Method – Drs. Julie & John Gottman
- For Couples: Dr. Julie Gottman outlines the phases of the Gottman Trust Revival Method to help rebuild trust after infidelity.
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- For Couples: Dr. Julie Gottman outlines the phases of the Gottman Trust Revival Method to help rebuild trust after infidelity.
Healing After an Affair – John Gottman, Ph.D.
- For Couples: Dr. John Gottman discusses practical steps to restore relationships after an affair, focusing on communication and rebuilding trust.
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- For Couples: Dr. John Gottman discusses practical steps to restore relationships after an affair, focusing on communication and rebuilding trust.
Sue Johnson: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Infidelity
Can You Repair a Relationship After an Affair?
- Speaker: Dr. Sue Johnson
- For Couples: Dr. Johnson explains the emotional wounds caused by infidelity and how EFT can help repair and strengthen emotional bonds.
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Can You Affair-Proof Your Relationship?
- Speaker: Dr. Sue Johnson
- For Couples: Dr. Johnson shares practical strategies for building secure emotional connections and reducing the risk of infidelity.
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Additional Insights
No Sex Marriage: Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame
- Speaker: Maureen McGrath
- For Couples: This TEDx talk explores the impact of sexless marriages on relationships, how loneliness and unmet needs can lead to infidelity, and ways to address these challenges.
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Healing from Betrayal: How to Rebuild Your Relationship After Infidelity
- Speaker: Affair Recovery
- For Couples: Offers practical steps for rebuilding trust and emotional safety after betrayal, guided by experts in infidelity recovery.
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How to Save a Marriage After Infidelity
- Speaker: Derrick Jaxn
- For Couples: Derrick Jaxn offers candid advice on how couples can work through the pain of infidelity and move toward healing and restoration.
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How to Get Over the Pain of Infidelity
- Speaker: Affair Recovery
- For Couples: Discusses the emotional pain of infidelity and provides evidence-based steps to process, heal, and rebuild relationships.
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Disclaimer
The resources listed above are shared purely for informational purposes and reflect what others have found useful in navigating the challenges of infidelity. I do not receive any compensation or benefits from sharing these links or recommendations. Please note that these resources are not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult your therapist or a registered practitioner for personalised guidance tailored to your unique situation.
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Why Choose Us?
Infidelity counselling at Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy offers a unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience, ensuring empathetic, tailored support. We prioritise privacy, flexibility, and a non-judgemental approach to help couples rebuild trust and navigate the complexities of infidelity. Using culturally sensitive, evidence-based methodologies such as the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), we provide a gold-standard counselling experience to guide you toward healing and growth.
1. A Unique Blend of Life Experience and Evidence-Based Expertise
At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy, our counsellor brings nearly 20 years of professional counselling experience combined with the wisdom and sensitivity gained from 25 years of marriage to a single partner. This combination of personal experience and evidence-based training ensures clients receive empathetic, grounded support rooted in the gold standards of marriage and infidelity counselling. Using proven modalities such as the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), and other evidence-based approaches, we guide couples toward healing, understanding, and trust rebuilding in even the most challenging circumstances.
With one highly trained counsellor experienced in trauma, sex therapy, and relationship issues, you won’t need to repeat your story multiple times or risk feelings of humiliation or shame. This seamless approach helps ensure your journey to healing is as supportive and effective as possible.
2. Private Practice Offering Flexible Scheduling
Infidelity is an emotionally urgent situation that requires timely support. As a private practice, we understand the importance of quick, flexible scheduling to address your needs when they matter most. Unlike larger institutions, we offer discreet, client-focused services that provide immediate and prioritised access to support. You’ll work directly with an experienced counsellor who provides consistent and reliable guidance throughout your healing journey.
3. Confidential, Non-Judgemental, and Safe Space
At Listening Ear, we prioritise creating a safe, confidential environment where you can express your emotions without fear of judgment or blame. Our counselling is designed to focus on understanding rather than interrogation, ensuring that both partners feel supported and heard. We believe that the person is not the problem; there is a problem, and our role is to help you address it constructively while respecting your boundaries and experiences.
4. Specialised in Marriage, Sexual Health, Trauma, and Culturally Sensitive Counselling
Infidelity often impacts both emotional intimacy and physical connection, while also triggering feelings of betrayal and trauma. As a trained marriage counsellor, sex therapist, and trauma specialist, our counsellor is uniquely equipped to address the multifaceted challenges of infidelity. Additionally, we recognise the importance of cultural and societal influences in shaping individual experiences. Our approach is culturally sensitive and tailored to respect your background, beliefs, and values, ensuring holistic and inclusive care.
5. Gold Standard in Evidence-Based Modalities
At Listening Ear, we integrate the best of evidence-based approaches to provide effective, proven support for couples and individuals navigating infidelity. These include:
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy, focusing on rebuilding trust, enhancing communication, and strengthening emotional connection.
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), which addresses attachment needs and creates secure bonds between partners.
- Nonviolent Communication (NVC), fostering empathy, understanding, and constructive dialogue.
- Virginia Satir’s Growth Model, promoting self-awareness, emotional healing, and relational harmony.
- Trauma-Informed Approaches, helping clients process betrayal and emotional wounds safely and effectively.
This gold-standard combination ensures that your counselling experience is personalised, effective, and grounded in best practices.
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