Dealing with Broken Promises Counselling Singapore
Every promise kept begins with healing within.
Rebuilding Trust in the Wake of Addiction
Introduction: When Addiction Breaks More Than Habits
Addiction doesn’t only damage health—it damages trust, relationships, and self-worth. At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we understand that one of the most painful consequences of addiction is the trail of broken promises it leaves behind.
From pledges to quit using, to commitments made to loved ones, and dreams left unfulfilled—addiction causes individuals to make and break promises they genuinely intended to keep. These repeated disappointments fuel guilt, resentment, and relationship breakdowns, making it harder for recovery to begin. Our therapy services offer a space for clients and their families to understand this pattern, break the cycle, and begin the process of rebuilding trust.
Understanding the Cycle of Broken Promises in Addiction
At the heart of many addictive patterns lies the devastating loop of intentions followed by failure. Whether someone promises to stay sober after a relapse, to show up for a family event, or to stop certain behaviours—these commitments are often sincere in the moment. Yet, addiction alters the brain’s reward system and impulse control, overriding willpower with compulsion.
Over time, these broken promises:
Undermine personal credibility
Cause emotional damage in relationships
Deepen feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation
Lead to distrust and emotional withdrawal from loved ones
This cycle perpetuates addiction, as individuals may use substances or unhealthy behaviours to cope with the very guilt and rejection their addiction creates.
How Addiction Affects Trust and Relationships
The emotional fallout of broken promises can be profound—especially for spouses, partners, children, and close family members. Loved ones may experience:
Chronic disappointment, having hoped for change that never came
Anger or emotional withdrawal, as a protective mechanism
Feelings of betrayal, when promises are repeatedly broken
Loss of emotional safety, especially in the case of financial or behavioural addiction
Emotional neglect, particularly for children in the household
For the person struggling with addiction, these strained relationships add another layer of emotional distress, leading to more withdrawal or relapse behaviour.
That’s why rebuilding trust in addiction recovery requires more than apologies—it requires consistent, intentional actionover time.
Breaking the Pattern: From Guilt to Accountability
The good news is: recovery is not just about abstaining from a substance—it’s about restoring integrity, responsibility, and trust.
With the help of professional therapy and structured support, individuals can begin to:
Acknowledge the pain their actions have caused
Take ownership without defensiveness or blame
Develop emotional awareness and communication skills
Understand how compulsions override decision-making
Learn new coping strategies for emotional triggers
Commit to a step-by-step recovery process grounded in honesty
At Listening Ear, we guide clients through this delicate process of personal reflection, amends, and behavioural change—building a sustainable path forward.
The Role of Therapy and Support Systems in Rebuilding Trust
In therapy, we help clients:
Process their guilt and shame in a safe, non-judgmental space
Understand the emotional needs of loved ones
Navigate emotionally charged conversations with family
Build emotional resilience and self-trust
Set realistic goals for personal growth and relational repair
Loved ones are encouraged to:
Participate in couples or family therapy to express their needs
Learn about addiction as a disease, not a moral failing
Develop boundaries that protect both parties’ well-being
Rebuild emotional safety and shared goals over time
From Broken Promises to Renewed Purpose
Every fulfilled commitment in recovery—no matter how small—is a victory. It could be:
Attending therapy every week
Rebuilding financial honesty
Being present and emotionally available
Following through on work or family obligations
Apologising and making amends for past harm
These actions slowly but steadily turn the tide—from broken promises to trustworthy behaviour and renewed connection.
Through counselling, individuals not only learn to manage their addiction but also to rediscover a sense of purpose, integrity, and belonging.
Cultivating Resilience and Long-Term Change
Resilience is essential in the healing process. Many clients worry that they’ve already let down their loved ones too many times. But with the right support, relapse can become a learning experience—not a failure.
We help clients:
Recognise relapse triggers
Rebuild after setbacks
Maintain emotional regulation in high-stress situations
Celebrate progress without pressure for perfection
Embrace personal growth and identity beyond addiction
Long-term recovery is about making and keeping small promises—to yourself, your body, your relationships, and your future.
Finding Hope in Recovery
Even after a long history of broken promises, healing is possible. With therapy, dedication, and a willingness to change, individuals can shift from hurting their relationships to healing them.
At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we walk alongside you as you:
Take accountability for past actions
Learn how to repair fractured relationships
Rebuild trust, both within and with others
Cultivate resilience for a sustained recovery
Restore your sense of self-worth and identity
Our Counselling Fees
| Session Type | Investment | Additional Charges | Cancellation Policy |
|---|---|---|---|
| In-Person Sessions | SGD 250 | – SGD 50 after-hours surcharge -Transportation fees for out-of-office sessions or different venues | Reschedule or cancel with 36+ hours’ notice. Late changes or no-shows incur full session investment. |
| Virtual Sessions (Zoom) | SGD 200 (PayNow) SGD 250 (Other Methods) | – SGD 50 after-hours surcharge | Same as above. |
What Clients say about our Counselling in Singapore
Professionally Trained, Trauma-Informed & Culturally Attuned
Evidence-Based & Grounded in Real Life
Culturally Sensitive & Globally Informed
Respectful of Complex, Delicate Issues
Neutral, Non-Judgemental & Confidential Space
Final Thoughts: A Promise to Yourself
Recovery is not just about abstaining—it’s about becoming someone who is dependable, connected, and whole again.
Whether you’ve broken promises or been on the receiving end, we’re here to help you move forward. Together, we can turn brokenness into breakthroughs—and create a future grounded in trust, care, and courage.
📞 Reach out to Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy today to begin your healing journey.
Your next promise can be the one you keep.