Gottman Method - Couples Therapy, Singapore
Science-Based Relationship Counselling Rooted in Trust, Structure, and Deep Connection
What is the Gottman Method for Marriages and Couples Therapy in Singapore
Science & Structure – Real Results for Real Relationships.
At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we don’t play around with something as sacred as love.
That’s why we use the Gottman Method – a world-renowned approach to couples therapy developed by Dr John Gottman and Dr Julie Gottman. Grounded in over four decades of scientific research with thousands of couples, this method blends science, structure, and practical tools to help real people build real relationships that last.
Whether you’re dating, married, or in a long-term partnership, this evidence-based process supports you in moving beyond conflict and into trust, growth, and deep emotional connection.
Beyond Conflict: A Pathway to Trust, Growth, and Lasting Connection
The Gottman Method is more than just learning to argue better. It’s a science-based path back to emotional safety, shared meaning, and secure connection, especially when the relationship feels stuck, strained, or silent.
Many couples don’t realise how unspoken fears, old attachment wounds, or even patterns from childhood can quietly shape the way they communicate (or don’t). A partner’s withdrawal, criticism, or emotional shutdown may not mean the love is lost — it may simply mean the tools to reconnect are missing.
Using practical, research-backed interventions, Gottman Couples Therapy gently supports couples in:
Rebuilding trust after emotional or relational ruptures
Replacing blame, criticism, or stonewalling with curiosity and clarity
Creating rituals of connection — small, meaningful habits that help you feel seen, safe, and cherished
Shifting from survival-mode to intentional partnership, where both of you feel heard, respected, and understood
This method doesn’t just patch up surface issues. It helps build a solid emotional foundation grounded in resilience, empathy, and mutual growth.
Whether you’re recovering from a crisis like infidelity, navigating the complex impact of addiction, or feeling the quiet ache of disconnection or intimacy issues, the Gottman Method offers a compassionate and structured roadmap forward:
Communicate without blame, stonewalling, or contempt
Manage conflict constructively and calmly
Heal emotional distance and rediscover your shared meaning
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At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we support couples from all walks of life — married, dating, premarital, intercultural, LGBTQIA+, and more. We honour each unique story with care and respect.
The Gottman Method brings you clear strategies, powerful insights, and proven tools — all tailored to your dynamic.
Because love isn’t guesswork.
It’s something worth building with science, structure, and a skilled guide.
After all you deserve nothing less than the gold standard in couples therapy.
💡 What Makes the Gottman Method Different?
A Science-Backed Framework. A Human Way to Rebuild.
The Gottman Method blends science, structure, and practical tools to help real people build real relationships that last.
It’s grounded in over 40 years of research by Drs John and Julie Gottman, who studied thousands of couples in their famous “Love Lab” — measuring not just what people say, but how their bodies, emotions, and nervous systems respond in moments of conflict, affection, or silence.
Their work uncovered the specific behaviours that predict relationship success or failure with over 90% accuracy.
From this research came two powerful frameworks:
These are now recognised worldwide as gold-standard tools for healthy, lasting connection.
At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we translate these insights into practical, compassionate, science-informed sessions for scouples from all walks of life — dating, married, intercultural, or LGBTQIA+.
💬 Our therapist, Karl deSouza, is listed on the official Gottman Referral Network and the Find a Gottman Therapist Directory, recognised for training and alignment with the Gottman Institute’s standards of excellence.
So whether you’re navigating disconnection, frequent conflict, or past betrayals, the Gottman Method offers clarity, safety, and sustainable tools. No fluff. No guesswork. Just evidence-based support with real tools for lasting change.
🧱 The 7 Gottman Principles — In Everyday Life
Below, we share how each Gottman principle can show up in your relationship, using everyday imagery to help you connect with each one. These aren’t just ideas they’re tools we explore and practise together in session.
1. Build Love Maps
Think of this as your emotional GPS. Know what’s happening in your partner’s inner world their worries, joys, dreams, and stressors. If you stop updating the map, you lose your way.
In therapy: We reignite curiosity and help you attune to and track each other’s emotional weather.
2. Nurture Fondness and Admiration
This is your relationship’s emotional savings account. Small expressions of appreciation add up and provide resilience when stress hits.
In therapy: You’ll reconnect with what you value in each other and learn how to say it out loud.
3. Turn Towards Instead of Away
Think of every moment of connection as a small paper plane tossed your way. These bids may be as simple as a “look at this!” or “can you help me?” Turning toward them builds trust.
In therapy: You’ll learn how to catch these bids and build a culture of everyday connection.
4. Let Your Partner Influence You
Relationships thrive when both voices matter. Power struggles damage connection. Shared decision-making fosters respect and flexibility.
In therapy: We practise listening, empathy, and co-creating solutions together.
Some issues are like clutter in the hallway easy to trip on, but also fixable. Many arguments can be managed with the right tools, such as the “Soft Startup” and repair techniques.
In therapy: You’ll learn how to stay calm, communicate clearly, and resolve tension before it explodes.
6. Manage Conflict and Overcome Gridlock
Gridlock often signals something deeper. You may be stuck not because of stubbornness, but because dreams or core values are being protected.
In therapy: We uncover the deeper meanings and help you approach the issue with greater compassion.
7. Create Shared Meaning
This is the emotional culture of your relationship — your inside jokes, rituals, and values. Strong couples feel they are building something bigger than just managing day-to-day life.
In therapy: We explore your vision, values, and shared life narrative.
🔐 All Together: The Sound Relationship House
The Sound Relationship House model ties all these principles together. The foundation is trust and commitment, and each level builds emotional safety, friendship, and meaning. Like any house, it needs ongoing care but the blueprint is clear.
Structured tools. Deep insight. A safer way back to each other.
🧪 Want a Relationship Health Snapshot?
We offer the Gottman Relationship Checkup – a secure, science-based assessment that gives you a detailed snapshot of your relationship. It measures communication, conflict, trust, intimacy, friendship, and more.
This relationship self-assessment tool helps us tailor therapy precisely to your dynamic.
Gottman Method in a Nutshell – Practical Tools to Rewire How You Relate
Gottman Couples Therapy is like a structured tune-up for your relationship engine. Just as EMDR helps the brain reprocess trauma, Gottman therapy helps relationships digest stuck patterns arguments on repeat, emotional shutdowns, or feelings of drifting apart.
🛤 What to Expect in Gottman Couples Therapy
Gottman Couples Therapy is like a structured tune-up for your relationship engine.
Just as EMDR helps the brain reprocess trauma, Gottman therapy helps relationships move past stuck patterns — like repeated arguments, emotional shutdowns, or feelings of drifting apart.
🧠 Phase 1: Assessment – A Relationship MRI
Your journey starts with a detailed, non-judgemental exploration of your relationship:
A joint intake session
Individual sessions with each partner
The Gottman Relationship Checkup — a secure online tool measuring trust, communication, conflict, intimacy, and more
This process gives us a clear map of your relationship’s strengths and challenges — like an MRI for your emotional connection.
🛠 Phase 2: Interventions – Doing the Work of Connection
Here we introduce research-based tools to help you relate differently — practically and emotionally. Think of this as learning new “relationship languages.”
Together, we’ll work on:
Spotting and transforming the Four Horsemen
Using soft start-ups and learning repair attempts
Building your emotional bank account small moments of connection that create resilience
Creating shared rituals and deeper understanding of each other’s values and dreams
Processing the Aftermath of a Fight using Gottman’s structured intervention to repair, reflect, and reconnect
It’s not about avoiding conflict — it’s about learning how to stay connected while disagreeing.
❤️ Phase 3: Deepening – From Conflict to Shared Meaning
Beyond resolving immediate issues, therapy supports you in:
Rekindling fondness and admiration
Understanding and honouring each other’s dreams
Writing a new shared story of resilience and emotional growth
Couples don’t need to be perfect. They need tools, safety, and shared purpose.
We work in a collaborative manner, and a regular couples therapy session could include exploring:
Communication and emotional intimacy
Conflict management using Gottman tools
Repairing past hurts with compassion
Deepening friendship and admiration
Creating rituals and shared dreams
We may also integrate trauma-informed interventions for regulation and grounding when needed.
🧰 Tools You Might Encounter in Sessions:
Gottman Sound Relationship House Model — Understand the foundation of trust, commitment, and connection.
The Four Horsemen & Antidotes — Learn to identify criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and practise healthy alternatives.
Repair Checklist — Techniques for making effective repair attempts.
Conflict Blueprint Exercise — Engage in conflict healthily, with validation, compromise, and problem-solving.
Dreams Within Conflict Exercise — Understand each other’s underlying beliefs, dreams, history, and values on any given issue.
Gottman-Rapoport Intervention — A method for ensuring both partners feel heard and understood during conflict.
The Art of Compromise — A framework to help couples identify core needs versus flexible areas on any issue.
These tools are customised to your relationship’s needs, always delivered with care, clarity, and cultural sensitivity.
What Brings People to Gottman Methods Couple Therapy?
Who Can Benefit from Gottman Couples Therapy?
You don’t need to be in a failing relationship to seek support. Many couples come simply because something feels off—or because they want to reconnect more deeply. Whether you’re in a moment of crisis or simply navigating change, Gottman Couples Therapy offers clear tools, grounded insights, and compassionate guidance.
Here are some of the most common reasons people seek help using the Gottman Method:
🔍 Infidelity and Broken Trust
Whether it’s emotional or physical betrayal, recovering from infidelity is one of the most painful experiences a couple can face. Gottman therapy offers a structured, non-blaming space to process the hurt, rebuild safety, and decide together what healing can look like.
🍷 Addiction and Recovery
When one or both partners are navigating addiction—be it alcohol, drugs, pornography, or gambling—the impact on the relationship can be profound. Gottman therapy supports open dialogue, boundary-setting, and rebuilding trust while honouring individual recovery journeys.
🧊 Communication Breakdown and Constant Conflict
If every discussion turns into an argument, or you’re avoiding talking altogether, therapy can help. You’ll learn how to replace criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling with clarity, empathy, and respect.
💬 Feeling Emotionally Disconnected or Lonely in the Relationship
Sometimes, it’s not about fighting—it’s about the silence. If you feel more like flatmates than partners, Gottman therapy helps you rebuild emotional intimacy and feel seen again.
🧓🏾 Tension with In-Laws or Extended Family
When family boundaries blur or become a source of conflict, couples may feel stuck between loyalty and resentment. Therapy can help you create healthy boundaries and communicate as a team.
👶 Parenting Stress and New Life Stages
Whether you’re raising young children, navigating teens, or entering empty nest years, parenting can place strain on a relationship. Gottman therapy helps couples stay connected as they grow into changing roles.
🌍 Cross-Cultural or Interfaith Couples
Intercultural and interfaith relationships can be incredibly rich, but they may come with unique challenges around values, family expectations, or communication styles. Therapy offers a safe space to explore differences with curiosity and respect.
🏳️🌈 LGBTQ+ and Non-Traditional Relationships
All relationships deserve safety, affirmation, and the tools to thrive. We welcome couples across the spectrum of gender and sexuality to work on connection, communication, and authenticity in their unique contexts.
🔁 Recurring Arguments About the Same Topics
Do you find yourselves having the “same fight” over and over? Gottman therapy helps you understand what’s underneath these patterns—whether it’s values, needs, or unspoken wounds—and shift from power struggles to partnership.
💰 Conflict Over Money, Career, or Division of Roles
Differing views on spending, saving, or sharing responsibilities often trigger stress. We’ll work on building mutual respect and shared meaning around life goals and values.
💔 Considering Separation, But Not Sure Yet
If you’re on the brink but unsure what to do, discernment counselling or therapy can help clarify what’s working, what’s not, and whether rebuilding is possible. It’s a space for reflection—not pressure.
💍 Pre-Marital or Pre-Commitment Support
Couples preparing for marriage or deepening commitment often want a check-in to align expectations, improve communication, and explore differences in a structured and supportive way.
🧍♂️ Attending Alone to Reflect on Relationship Patterns
Even if your partner isn’t ready to attend, you can begin. Learning about your own responses, triggers, and needs is powerful—and often creates ripple effects in the relationship dynamic.
🌱 Life Transitions and Other Challenges
Relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. Sometimes, external pressures or life changes deeply affect how you relate to one another. Gottman Couples Therapy is designed to support couples not just through relational issues, but also through life transitions, identity shifts, and emotional upheaval. Here are some additional concerns we support:
✈️ Expatriate Relocation & Cultural Adjustment
Moving to Singapore—or anywhere abroad—can be exciting but disorienting. Adjusting to new cultures, managing distance from extended family, or coping with loneliness as a “trailing spouse” can affect emotional connection and partnership roles.
👵 Living with In-Laws or Multigenerational Households
When parents move in, or cultural expectations bring extended family under one roof, boundaries and couple time can become blurred. Therapy offers a space to communicate needs while honouring family values.
👶 New Parenthood
Welcoming a child changes everything—sleep, intimacy, identity, routines. Gottman research shows 67% of couples experience decline in satisfaction after their first child. We help you rediscover each other amidst the nappies and night feeds.
💼 Job Loss, Career Transitions & Financial Strain
Redundancy, career shifts, or economic stress can shake confidence and couple dynamics. We help partners show up as a team—not turn on each other.
♀️ Menopause, Andropause, and Midlife Reflections
Hormonal changes and midlife milestones can stir emotional, sexual, and identity shifts. Therapy can help couples navigate this terrain with empathy, curiosity, and new language for closeness.
🏥 Chronic Illness, Cancer & Medical Conditions
When one or both partners face illness or disability—such as cancer, autoimmune issues, or fertility struggles—the couple bond is tested. We provide tools to stay emotionally connected, even through fear, treatment, or changing roles.
🧬 Fertility Issues, Miscarriage, or Child Loss
Grief has many forms. From pregnancy loss to unsuccessful IVF, these invisible sorrows often isolate couples. Therapy supports emotional processing, mutual empathy, and space to honour the pain—together.
💔 Non-Consummation, Medical Barriers to Intimacy
Sometimes, physical intimacy is blocked by painful or embarrassing conditions like phimosis, erectile dysfunction, or vaginismus. These are deeply personal struggles—but you’re not alone. We explore medical, emotional, and relational aspects without shame.
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🪦 Grief, Sudden Loss, or Bereavement
Losing a loved one—including friends, parents, children, or unborn babies—can destabilise not only individuals, but the relationship holding them. Grief-informed Gottman work helps couples hold sorrow with care and unity.
🔥 Burnout, Anxiety, Depression, or Trauma
When one partner is overwhelmed, depressed, or dysregulated, the other often feels helpless or alone. Gottman-informed therapy can integrate trauma-sensitive tools and regulation strategies to co-create emotional safety.
❓Existential or Spiritual Crisis
Questions of meaning, purpose, and faith can quietly affect the emotional landscape between partners. Especially during midlife, health scares, or transitions, we help couples explore these deeper shifts without judgement.
🧍 When You’re Just… Not Yourself
Sometimes, you can’t put your finger on it. You feel flat. Resentful. Disconnected. Or simply… not you. That’s worth exploring too. Relationship health isn’t just about communication—it’s about aliveness, clarity, and renewal.
We honour that each relationship is complex, and no two journeys are the same.
Whatever you’re facing, we’ll meet you there—with science, structure, and humanity.
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In short: If you’re longing for more understanding, respect, or closeness, this is a space for you.
Whether your relationship is hurting, healing, or simply ready for a tune-up, Gottman Couples Therapy can help you reconnect with what matters most.
How Do You Know If Marriage Counselling or Couples Counselling with Gottman Might Help?
You don’t need to be in a full-blown crisis to benefit from couples therapy. In fact, some of the strongest relationships are built when couples seek help early—before resentment or silence take root. Gottman Method therapy is not just for marriages in trouble; it’s for anyone who wants to grow, repair, or strengthen their bond.
Here are some common signs that this structured, science-backed approach could help:
Maybe it’s about chores, parenting, sex, or money—but the content matters less than the pattern. If conversations keep escalating, looping, or ending in silence, there may be deeper unmet needs underneath. Gottman therapy helps uncover those needs and offers tools to break the cycle.
Whether through infidelity, emotional affairs, secrecy around finances, or hidden behaviours, betrayal shakes the foundation of any relationship. Gottman Couples Therapy offers a research-backed path to rebuilding trust, step by step, with care and accountability.
You might live under the same roof, but feel like roommates. Conversations become transactional, affection fades, and deeper feelings are left unspoken. Therapy helps partners turn back toward each other, rebuild emotional intimacy, and feel seen again.
Whether it’s a drop in sexual connection or emotional closeness, many couples struggle to navigate intimacy over time. Gottman therapy creates a safe, non-judgemental space to explore barriers and desires, helping you reconnect with affection, trust, and sensuality.
You may love each other but struggle with family pressures, cultural differences, or differing views on parenting. The Gottman Method teaches couples how to understand and honour each other’s values while creating shared meaning and respectful boundaries.
You find yourselves snapping, blaming, shutting down—or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict. The Gottman framework helps you recognise destructive patterns like the Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling), and replace them with repair attempts, soft start-ups, and emotional safety.
When certain topics feel too risky to touch—be it finances, parenting, or unmet needs—avoidance can quietly corrode connection. In therapy, we help couples create the emotional safety to talk about the hard stuff without spiralling into blame or shutdown.
Whether it’s a miscarriage, illness, job loss, or immigration stress, big life events can shake a couple’s emotional equilibrium. Gottman-informed therapy (often combined with trauma-informed methods like EFT, IFS, or EMDR) helps couples regulate together, support each other, and reconnect after overwhelm.
Some couples come to therapy not because they’re struggling, but because they want to invest in their future—just like preventive care for your relationship. Gottman work supports you to deepen friendship, clarify values, and build shared rituals that help love last.
Understanding the Four Horsemen and their Antidotes
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, as defined by John Gottman, are predictors of relationship breakdown if left unaddressed:
Criticism – attacking character rather than addressing a behaviour
Contempt – sarcasm, name-calling, eye-rolling; the most toxic of the four
Defensiveness – deflecting responsibility
Stonewalling – shutting down emotionally or physically
In therapy, we teach antidotes to each one—practical skills that help you shift the dynamic and rebuild emotional safety.
Criticism – Attacking the person, not the issue
What it sounds like:
“You never help me. You’re so selfish.”
Why it’s harmful:
Criticism attacks your partner’s character and identity, not just their behaviour. It often leads to defensiveness or shutdown.
Antidote – Gentle Start-Up:
Instead of blaming, describe what’s bothering you and express your needs using “I” statements.
✅ “I feel overwhelmed when I’m handling everything alone. Could you help me with dinner tonight?”
This shifts the tone from accusation to invitation—opening the door for understanding and teamwork.
Defensiveness – Refusing to take responsibility
What it sounds like:
“It’s not my fault! You’re the one who’s always late!”
Why it’s harmful:
Defensiveness blocks resolution. It escalates conflict and makes your partner feel unheard or blamed.
Antidote – Take Responsibility (Even If It’s Just a Small Part):
Acknowledge your role and show willingness to repair.
✅ “You’re right—I could have texted earlier. I’ll try to do that next time.”
Taking ownership doesn’t mean taking all the blame—it means creating space for accountability and healing.
Defensiveness – Refusing to take responsibility
What it sounds like:
“It’s not my fault! You’re the one who’s always late!”
Why it’s harmful:
Defensiveness blocks resolution. It escalates conflict and makes your partner feel unheard or blamed.
Antidote – Take Responsibility (Even If It’s Just a Small Part):
Acknowledge your role and show willingness to repair.
✅ “You’re right—I could have texted earlier. I’ll try to do that next time.”
Taking ownership doesn’t mean taking all the blame—it means creating space for accountability and healing.
Stonewalling – Withdrawing to protect oneself
What it sounds like:
(Silent treatment, turning away, walking out mid-conversation)
Why it’s harmful:
Stonewalling often occurs when someone is emotionally overwhelmed (“flooded”). But to the other partner, it feels like abandonment.
Antidote – Physiological Self-Soothing:
Take a break to calm your nervous system, then return to the conversation with presence.
✅ “I’m feeling overwhelmed and need 20 minutes to cool down. Let’s take a pause and talk again soon—I want to hear you properly.”
Learning to soothe rather than shut down helps rebuild trust and signals care, even in tense moments.
Why Choose Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd.
Professionally Trained by Gottman Institute Completed Level 3
Trained in Other Trauma Modalities like Somatic Experiencing, Brainspotting , IFS which complement Gottman Method.
Culturally Sensitive & Globally Informed
Neutral and Respectful of Complex, Delicate Issues
Confidential Safe, Non-Judgemental Space
Next Steps – Rebuilding Begins with a Conversation
You don’t have to carry the distance, doubt, or disconnection alone. And you don’t have to figure it all out before reaching out.
Whether you’re feeling stuck in repeated arguments, drifting apart in silence, or quietly hoping for more closeness, Gottman Couples Therapy offers practical, research-backed ways to help you understand each other again—and begin to rebuild, gently and respectfully.
At Listening Ear Counselling & Consultancy Pte. Ltd., we offer a space where conversations can begin—conversations that lead to repair, clarity, and deeper connection.
You’re welcome to reach out for a brief, no-pressure chat to explore if this is the right fit.
📍 In-person sessions available at International Plaza, Anson Road, or via Zoom
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A stronger relationship begins not with blame, but with understanding. Not with fixing, but with choosing to turn toward. Let’s begin that conversation—when you’re ready.
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Frequently Asked Questions About the Gottman Method (FAQs)
Gottman Couples Therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach developed by Drs John and Julie Gottman, based on over 40 years of research with real couples. Unlike open-ended or purely insight-driven counselling, this method offers practical tools for managing conflict, improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
It’s less about talking in circles—and more about learning how to turn toward one another again.
Not at all. Many couples seek support to strengthen their relationship before problems escalate. Whether you’re navigating stress, feeling emotionally disconnected, or simply want to improve how you communicate, Gottman therapy offers guidance for both prevention and repair.
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples feel better after 6–10 sessions; others continue longer to rebuild trust and emotional intimacy more deeply. We’ll work collaboratively to find a pace and focus that suits your relationship and capacity.
We begin with an assessment phase that includes:
A joint session with both partners
Individual sessions with each person
Completion of the Gottman Relationship Checkup, an online diagnostic tool
This allows us to gain a clear picture of your relationship’s strengths and challenges and design a plan together.
You can still begin the process individually. Many clients start alone, using Gottman-informed insights to reflect on their own patterns and responses. Often, when one partner starts to shift, the other becomes more open to joining later on.
Not at all. It’s suitable for couples at any stage—dating, engaged, newlyweds, long-term partners, or remarried. It also supports blended families, intercultural couples, and LGBTQ+ relationships. If you value the connection and want to work on it, you’re in the right place.
Yes. Rebuilding trust after betrayal is difficult but possible. The Gottman Method provides a structured path for healing, helping partners move through pain, rebuild safety, and decide together what the future will look like—with honesty and care.
Yes. Gottman therapy works well via Zoom for couples who are travelling, living apart, or simply prefer online convenience. In-person sessions are also available at International Plaza, Anson Road.
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a confidential online tool designed to help couples and therapists gain insight into relationship strengths, struggles, and patterns. It’s a research-based assessment created by Drs John and Julie Gottman to guide therapy in a focused, effective way.
Here’s what to expect:
1. Receive your personalised invitations
Each partner will get a separate email from your therapist with a private link to begin the process. These links are secure and unique to you.
2. Create your own confidential profile
After accepting the invitation, you’ll each set up a personal account. This ensures that your responses remain completely private—even from your partner.
3. Complete the questionnaire in your own time
You’ll each fill out a detailed questionnaire about various areas of your relationship: communication, intimacy, conflict, friendship, values, and more.
You can pause and return to it anytime.
Most people take about 90 minutes to 2 hours, depending on pace.
For accuracy and emotional safety, we strongly encourage you not to share answers or look at your partner’s account.
4. Your therapist reviews the results
Once both questionnaires are completed, your therapist receives a secure report with your combined relationship profile—highlighting strengths, potential stress points, and patterns to explore.
This helps shape your therapy sessions with clarity and direction, so you don’t waste time guessing what’s going on. Instead, you can begin building insight and tools right from the first session.
Why it matters
The Relationship Checkup is not a test—it’s a conversation starter. It brings to light areas that might have gone unspoken and offers a roadmap for working together with intention, care, and mutual understanding.